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Friday, April 20, 2012

Yeah, you so funny...

So yesterday I received another call from the DTC.  After being off on Spring Break for a week and then returning to school this week, I'm actually surprised it took until Thursday for something to happen.  My daughter doesn't handle change well.

There were a couple of small incidents yesterday that the staff felt were inappropriate.  But they were relatively minor things.  What wasn't minor was my daughters reaction to them.  Every day she gets her "goal sheet", where they give her either a 1 or a 0 based on how well she met her goals for the day.  Yesterday she got 2 zeros.  We don't make a big deal out of them at home, but in her head it's a HUGE deal.

So anyway, she saw the zeros and flipped out.  It began escalating and they attempted to remove her from the classroom so they could speak to her without an audience.  So of course she went ballistic.  Thankfully, she's not a physically violent person (although she could be - she's no wilting flower) but she told them all she was going to call the police and fill a report that the male teacher touched her inappropriately "and raped her".

For obvious reasons, this didn't go over so well.

But when I got home last night, the wife had been talking to our daughter about her day at school.  Of course her story made her out to be the victim in all of that and she conveniently forgot about the allegation that really ramped things up.

Or was it convenience?  When I asked her about it, her response was "oh yeah, I forgot about that!"

I think she really DID forget.  I know these kids love drama.  It's what they're used to.  Their lives were so chaotic and dramatic at such a young age, that it's what they find comfort in.  It's "safe" because it's what they know.  They don't realize what an impact it has on the people around them - and I get that too.  They had to focus on their own survival for so long that it's hard for them to empathize with others - after all, how others feel doesn't really have any bearing on their survival (it does, but they don't see it that way - it's them against the world).  Even this morning when I brought it up and reminded her she is meeting with the school director and that teacher this morning, she smiled and thought it was funny.

Well it isn't to me!

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