Lately there have been some
definite improvements in my daughters behavior.
Certainly she’s still up to some of the same old tricks, but the massive
blowups and WWIII style drama explosions are further apart.
So imagine my surprise when a
simple request to “please feed the cats” would cause such a ruckus!! We were in the kitchen, I was finishing up
the days dishes, wife was preparing dinner, and my daughter started to unload the dish
drainer. The cats hadn’t eaten so I
asked her to do that instead.
From there it was all downhill.
For some reason that really
seemed to dysregulate her and I could practically feel her frustration. Then I watched her fill up 2 bowls (we have
three cats) to overflowing and put the cat food away. When I pointed out that was too much food,
especially for our overweight pig.. err I mean cat, as well as for the older
cat who tends to overeat and then vomit, I could practically feel her ready to
explode. So she returned almost all the
food to the container, leaving about 7 pieces in each of 2 bowls. When I said something along the lines of
“come on, really? They need more than that” it was ON. So she ended up in her room for the evening
and wouldn’t talk to me when I went back to show her that although I didn’t
approve of her behavior, I still loved her. She hasn’t had a blow up like that
in MONTHS and I really couldn’t figure out wtf was up. It was like she went from 0 to 100 in 20
seconds and I was at a loss… where did this come from? It’s not like we asked her to paint the
bathroom with her toothbrush, or cut off all her hair, or some other odd
request. Just asked her to feed the cats
– something we all do.
Then, a day or two later we
figured it out. When she returned from
grandmas the Sunday prior, she lost her anti-depressants. Why she didn’t tell us, I have no idea. But when we would ask if she took them, she
would tell us yes – but obviously she hadn’t.
Turns out they had fallen out of her backpack in the trunk of the car
and gotten into another bag with some camping stuff (we had just returned
ourselves and hadn’t gotten around to completely emptying the trunk). Thankfully we finally found them. But I really don’t understand why she was
telling us she was taking them when she wasn’t.
Or why she didn’t tell us she couldn’t find them? Would have been a simple matter to look for
them or even just refill the prescription.
I knew there was something
different about her all that week. I
thought it was just the beginning of school, but it was definitely
noticeable. She, of course, says she’s
no different on or off of them, but I’m not the only person who noticed. When I spoke with her case manager this
morning and mentioned it to her, she had an “a-ha!” moment – apparently my daughter had
been VERY volatile all week and they were trying to figure it out also. Like me, they had attributed it to it being
the first week of school but thought there must have been something else going
on.
I’ve been sitting here trying to
figure out her thought process and why she just let it go. But I can’t.
And she’s not telling…..
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