I don't know whether to be happy or scared that my mother has agreed to take RAD for a week while we get some respite. On one hand I'm ecstatic that we will get such a huge respite (usually only get a day or two per year). On the other hand, even a single night away requires a weeks worth of "repair". She had one night away last weekend and it's now Thursday and we're STILL dealing with fall-out. Thankfully, we have a close working relationship with her caseworker at the Day Treatment Center and they are very helpful with getting RAD back on track, but any crack in the plan that RAD can find she will abuse it. So it's a lot of stress, time, attention and phone calls that go into 'post visit care' so to speak.
When discussing the possibility of a visit, I had a good long chat with grandma about RADs issues. She has always been of the frame of mind that it's just bad parenting and RAD just needs more freedom to be herself. Which of course is exactly NOT what she needs (unless frequent trips to the ER are your idea of good parenting). So I have just under 1 month to educate her. Whether or not she will actually listen is a whole other story...
I will pray Grandma listens - you deserve some respite time - I'm glad you are getting some!
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